When are you going? If after August,I would look at the new Secrets Bahia Mita that is north about an hour near Punta de Mita. It is adults only and wil lhave gorgeous view, brand spaking new, so will be very nice. You may just get some great intro rates. Will have great pools and a spa as well. No reviews though as it's not open yet.
My favorite adults-only resorts are Hotel Mousai, Villa Premier & Casa Velas. HM & VP are all-inclusive optional, Casa Velas is all-inclusive. Villa Premier & Casa Velas are located in Puerto Vallarta & Hotel Mousai is just south of PV. All of these options are smaller & have a quiet atmosphere.
I had booked Secrets Baha Mita for my trip in October, but cancelled after doing more research. It is a huge horseshoe shaped complex comprised of both Secrets & Dreams. There are shared facilities such as some restaurants, the spa, etc. I prefer smaller resorts & I don’t like that Secrets/Dreams is actually one mega resort.
Your travel dates may affect your experience. In general terms we like the Riu Palace Pacifico. It draws a slightly older crowd and although children are allowed it has never been a problem in our many visits there. Food is better than some other AI resorts we have been to, and there are a lot of nice outdoor areas for dining and several bars. One large pool with a great swim up bar that has tables and benches in the water, with areas of shade or sun. I would say it is relatively quiet. Entertainment is on par with most other AI resorts. The location is fabulous on the long stretch of beach, walkable to Bucerias, and an easy taxi ride into PV. Staff has always been great and remember repeat visitors. Rooms are all suites with a nice little sitting area and balcony. We have not visited during Covid but are looking forward to our trip this fall.
In Nuevo Vallarta, Grand Velas is an excellent option. I recently returned from my 2nd stay at the resort. It’s family friendly, but there were very few children. The price point is higher than other resorts in the area, which in my opinion results in the clientele having more decorum & making it a serene environment.
I am in agreement with # 3 so please reread RayBob's post.
Thank you all for your very helpful advice. We have decided on Hotel Moussai. We are not planning to do anything but eat, sleep and relax. Thanks again!, Lori